From people who contributed their experience of stillbirth

Creating artwork in Miller’s memory and naming a dot after him means the world to me. It’s a way to honor his brief but impactful life, giving him a lasting place in the universe. Each time I look at the art or think of his dot, I feel closer to him, reminded that he’ll always be a part of my life. This tribute offers comfort and a sense of connection, allowing his legacy to shine on, even in his absence.

Sharing our stories and showing the world how many babies die to stillbirth and are loved and missed by their parents will help to get the message across that these babies matter and they are our children forever like any other [living] child.

When dealing with a loss of a child it’s tough to find anyone who can relate. I find it helps me to hear other people’s experiences. It makes me feel not alone.

It is a feeling of belonging. Thanks for producing this artwork to raise awareness. I am also researching stigma around stillbirth and have emailed you.

I liked reading other parents messages. When I saw some people lost more than one child and I've been crying every day all day for my one and only baby, I am realising that I am not thankful enough to my Lord and that He will definitely help me.

An artwork is another way in to the experience. Some people respond to words, pictures, etc and this is another angle in the experience. So powerful, seeing and reading all the stories and babies. Thank you

It is nice to feel part of a group and understand that we are not alone in this very bumpy journey.

Fellow sufferers understand you better than anyone ever.

It's a platform for expressing emotions which other people around us cannot understand.

I’ve found speaking to others in similar situations helpful.

It is sad to see so many dots, but being part of the babyloss community, we all feel, and understand, the need to keep our babies memories alive.

More people need to know ther not alone

It is a very lovely concept but I do not believe that enough people will know about it for it to make a substantive difference. For me, a bereaved parent at the heart of it, I do feel part of a very special 'club' and it makes it feel real that Andrew was here and that he did count. Thank you.

When one suffers a stillbirth, for the longest time you imagine it's only occured to you, but in the reaching out for professional help you meet up with many more mothers who are equally suffering from the same dilemma. Opening up and comfortably sharing your experience with others as part of networking, knowledge sharing and follow-up groups helps break the taboo.

The visual representation of each of these lost lives is captured so well in this artwork. When seen in its entirety, it is so powerful.

It will (help break the taboo on stillbirth) as this is a subject not talked about. I talk about my little girl born sleeping all the time. She is one of our family too and always will be. I believe I have 7 children, not just 3 and that is what I tell people. It also helps them understand who I am as a person: kind, compassionate and caring.

Any way we can share our children’s stories helps us to heal, and it enables others to speak more freely about their pain.

I think every attempt and every idea to break the taboo on stillbirth is much needed and necessary. A range of ideas and methods is needed to reach a range of people. Being able to remember and say my daughter’s name wherever I can is important to me, so marking a dot for her means a lot. It’s another way to continue to parent her even though she is gone. Thank you.

I think, especially if your experience is new, it is comforting to read and hear of other people having the same experience. You wish they didn't have that experience too but its comforting to not feel so alone. And to feel a sense of hope that in the future things might feel more bearable.

This will help to break the stigma of not talking about it.

From people who visited the Each Egg a World artwork

It happens to all sorts of people

I can relate to the comments that I read having experience stillbirth five years ago with my baby Jonas. It's important that we can all be more open about stillbirth and support those families who are going through the trauma. It's essential that more research is done to help avoid little lives being lost. Thank you for your work Adinda in helping stillbirth be talked about and understood.

I was surprised at how common stillbirth is and reflected that it isn’t seen or spoken about as part of many people’s lives. It made me think about health inequalities and how women’s health is more broadly still taboo.

My first understanding of baby loss was when I was a child and my mum cried. She was 39 weeks pregnant and was told her babies heart had stopped beating. I remember sobbing for her, for her baby and for the big brother who would never never meet his younger sibling. Again, when I was in my 20s a colleague went on maternity leave, but without a baby to cradle in her arms and again I sobbed for her. Neither time did I speak to the women about this loss, I only projected my feelings onto them. Flash forward to my first pregnancy loss (at 14 weeks) and I felt a pain I didn’t know it was possible to live through…suddenly I had an idea and I remembered those women and I remembered weeping for them, and I knew my pain was not the same. This artwork is beautiful and perfect and important. Parents left with a gaping space in their arms and hearts deserves place to express that. Well done.

Today, 10 years after the stillbirth of my dear niece, I am reminded of the importance of breaking the taboo on this subject. I experience much love for her, even though I never got to see her alive in this life. I hope someday all people experiencing stillbirth will be able to share this great grief freely, and that they feel understood and supported. Thank you, dear sister, for speaking up!

I once worked closely with three young women who were all expecting their first child at roughly the same time. Two gave birth to a healthy baby, a son and daughter respectively. The third suffered a stillbirth. It was very difficult to know what to say in the circumstances - the joy of two women and the devastation of the third. She left the company, moved away and eventually had a healthy child. Life moved on. The need to say anything seemed to have been overtaken by events. I think through this artwork and the testimonies of others I now understand what she was going through and have a better idea of what I could have/should have said.

Stillbirth is still taboo. A lonely place to be because our community turns away and people don't want to talk about the fact that babies sometimes die.

So many people going through the same heartache.

It was very moving and made me realise the importance of breaking the taboo in order that people can share their experiences. I hope that Each Egg a World raises awareness and helps to bring support to those that have experienced this terrible loss.

It's beautiful to read how much love people feel for their babies but so sad they had to lose them. It's also made me aware of how important it is to let people talk about their baby and to actively ask questions about them rather than ignore the issue.

This is painful to get an insight to but important for everyone to understand. Thank you to everyone that shared their stories.

The artist should be proud to have provided a forum for such powerful human experiences, which still functions aesthetically. It will be intriguing to see the transformation in the work as statements accrue, with more and more detail at greater zoom levels. The art object here has true potential social impact.

The human spirit in the face of such great pain and loss is in powerful evidence throughout the contributed statements. No matter the distance in time, the memory cannot be escaped, and the artwork can only help a wider understanding of the grief and love of bereaved parents in a society which still suffers over and over again.

Tenemos que dar visibilidad. - We have to give visibility.